He had a long, unsatisfactory affair with Louise Colet, eleven years older than he was, and also a writer, who saved his splendid letters. He had himself a Romantic interest in the distant and strange, both in space and in time. In Flaubert finished writing La Tentation de Saint Antoine, inspired by a painting by Brueghel he had seen in Genoa in , which depicted the ascetic saint in the desert beset by demons and fleshly temptations. He did a great deal of research on fourth century beliefs, pagan, Christian and heretical, and staged his tale as an exotic drama of ideas.
In , just before setting out for Egypt with Du Camp, he spent - according to Du Camp - thirty-two hours reading the text aloud to him and his other great friend Louis Bouilhet. Also according to Du Camp, Bouilhet, when Flaubert finally demanded his opinion of the work, said 'I think you should throw it into the fire and never speak of it again.
In he abandoned various other romantic and exotic projects - Une Nuit de Don Juan, Anubis - and embarked on his novel of provincial life. But already at the age of sixteen Flaubert had written a tale based on a news story in the Rouen newspapers.
He called it Passion et Vertu. Its central character is a woman who poisons her husband and children in order to join her lover in America, and commits suicide when the lover rejects her. Flaubert gave his murderess and suicide romantic tastes as motivation, whereas the original woman seems to have been driven more by money and a desire to evade trial and execution.
Flaubert's published letters - especially those to Louise Colet about the writing of Madame Bovary - are some of the most fascinating accounts of the writing process that exist. He tells her he is 'two distinct persons: When I think of what it can be, I am dazzled. Writing this book I am like a man playing the piano with lead balls attached to his knuckles. The supreme importance of style is something to which he returns again and again.
He believed he lived in a time when it was not possible to create great types, like Don Quixote or the characters of Shakespeare who 'was not a man, he was a continent; he contained whole crowds of men, entire landscapes. Writers like him do not worry about style: When it comes to us, the little men, our value depends on finished execution. The prose of Madame Bovary depends for many of its most startling effects on its accurate rendering of things.
Flaubert told Louise that he wanted to make his reader feel his world 'almost physically' and the emotion and feeling of the novel are embedded in things, from Charles's uncouth cap in the first chapter, to Emma's delicate presentation of her meals, to her presents to Rodolphe. Tucker: Oh, wow.
Like, I know these initials. So, I have so many. You probably should read my books. Your books are so awesome. Not even morally fucked-up. Tucker: Beer in Hell. She had an abortion and then came over to my place. You were there for all these stories. You know. So, read those again.
Those are all stories about how I got messed up — or mixed up — with incredibly beautiful and also profoundly fucked-up girls and the huge impact it had on my life, pretty much all negative. Geoff: So any given borderline personality disorder a woman will have, like, thirty or fifty or a hundred guys in her past who have suffered the costs of her drama. So, as a proportion of your drama in your whole life, a big chunk of it will be taken up by that tiny percentage of women who were really kind of toxic. Like, you had a mom like that or loosely speaking.
Those two, or three is if you are going out and your only goal is to basically hook up with as many women as possible, which was my goal for a lot of years. I have four, you know? You understand, Harleys or whatever. And he bought it and he wrecked it one time and he laid it down and I had to go pick him up and…this is Stydie, actually. The insurance agent showed up to do the assessment, and the insurance agent says — Stydie was all freaked out at the accident.
You walked away from this. This is the best result you could hope for, owning a bike. I wrecked my bike. When you buy a bike, the question is not if you wreck it. My advice? I think I have Stydie in some of the books. Just know there are consequences and some people want to pay those consequences. I did, you know? So, we kind of brushed this over a little bit, but I think I want to come back to it. I know you have some good stories about this, Dr.
This is a real thing, right? What do you think of it? Geoff: I mean, the physical danger that you face in short-term mating partly comes from the women. I mean, most women are not going to physically assault you. The crazy ones will. A lot of ordinary, normal, great women have very protective male relatives, and I completely understand this now that I have an year-old daughter, right? True enough, crazy women tend to have crazy exes, but she could be a perfectly great woman who just happened to fall into something with a guy who turns out to be a stalker.
Tucker: Or he could just be a fucking stalker. You know? They live in small towns, tight-knit communities, neighborhoods, somebody finds out and the reputational damage that comes with being that girl trickles down into the family and the male relatives get real pissed.
That is a very real phenomenon, not just in Pakistan, not just in India, but here, as well. You live in big cities, probably not a problem. Nils: If you live in a person town in rural Kansas. Tucker: Police brutality, right. So, what are you doing tonight? Is your boyfriend dangerous? Just talk to a girl normally. You can even make a joke. Most of my girlfriends have been great. Let me tell you about the one who shot up my house.
Pretty simple, you know? Are there any other big red flags for short-term dating? So, simple things. What are some other things? Stay away. Geoff: Another New York date. One other danger actually I wanted to mention for young guys that they almost never think about is actually driving. Tucker: You bring up driving safety all the time, dude. Tucker: Well, a young guy or a young girl. Geoff: So, pay attention. What are some other…? Histrionic stuff? This is going to be the short-term mating, what to look for in short-term mating. The next podcast will be what to look in medium- to longer-term mating partners.
Podcast: You can click here right click, then click save as to download the episode directly. There are a lot of traits that you should look for and lots that you should look to avoid that are important not just for long-term relationships but short-term hookups as well. Find women who are interested in hookups. Some more traits that correlate well with short-term mating: political liberalism, openness to new experiences, whether or not she goes travelling.
Note: just because a woman wants to hook up does NOT mean that she wants to sleep with any random guy. Visible tattoos and the location of them also correlate highly with openness to short-term mating, as does smoking. Is she wearing a wedding ring? Most guys are usually clueless about this. None of these are perfect indicators.
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This is about playing the odds. Things to avoid: bright red lipstick, big hoop earrings, feather boas. These are indicators that she may not be the best girl to hook up with. The woman who are sleeping with 10x or 20x the average are usually crazy, and not in a good way. These women tend to be low in terms of conscientiousness and high impulsivity, so make sure you always wear a condom for starters.
Not all women who are sexually adventurous want to have abortions or take the morning after pill, so there are pregnancy issues to deal with as well. Your reputation could be adversely affected — sexually open women tend to be more open in terms of talking about their sexual encounters to others as well, so other people will hear about it. If other guys warn you about certain girls, pay attention.
Just get out. Women with drug problems are terrible. Physical danger is another concern. If there are any big, flashing warning signs, then pay attention to them. You just need to know what the possible consequences are if you do it. Links from this episode In academic terms, openness to hooking up is measured by the Sociosexual Orientation Inventory.
There are a lot of guys who hook up with women using Couchsurfing not that we recommend it. For example, see this Business Insider article This data from the CDC show the median number of sexual partners for men 6. Toxoplasmosis , the danger that every crazy cat lady brings with her. For a great example of how protective family can be, check out this scene from Bad Boys II.
Footloose : this movie is set in the Midwest for a reason. Podcast Audio Transcription : Tucker: Alright. Intelligence, kindness, openness… Geoff: Willpower, conscientiousness, and then all of that stuff like the social proof, the social status, the aesthetic proof — not just her physical beauty, but her sense of style and clothing and her apartment and all of that. Geoff: I think the most important thing is a small set of traits to watch out for, sort of red flags and warning signs— Tucker: Do we want to talk about girls to go for and then girls to avoid?
Nils: Put that one on the list. And he was ignoring you otherwise. Nils: Yes. Tucker: What are some other things that correlate with — what do you call it, high socio— Geoff: Socio-sexuality. Geoff: It is a correlation. Nils: But who are super stealthy about it, typically.
Tucker: Well, she has an issue. Maybe not a moral issue, but an issue. Tucker: Women get catty. Geoff: No. One of her challenges is trying to control her anger, a challenge that her mother experiences. She advises Jo to speak with forethought before leaving to travel to Washington , where her husband has pneumonia. Their neighbour, Mr. Laurence, who is charmed by Beth, gives her a piano.
Beth contracts scarlet fever after spending time with a poor family where three children die. Jo tends Beth in her illness. Beth recovers, but never fully. As a precaution, Amy is sent to live with Aunt March, replacing Jo, while Beth was ill and still infectious. Jo has success earning money with her writing. Meg spends two weeks with friends, where there are parties for the girls to dance with boys and improve social skills. Theodore 'Laurie' Laurence, Mr. Laurence's grandson, is invited to one of the dances, as her friends incorrectly think Meg is in love with him.
Meg is more interested in John Brooke, Laurie's young tutor. Brooke goes to Washington to help Mr. While with the March parents, Brooke confesses his love for Meg. They are pleased but consider Meg too young to be married. Brooke agrees to wait but enlists and serves a year or so in the war. After he is wounded, he returns to find work so he can buy a house ready for when he marries Meg. Laurie goes off to college. On Christmas Day, a year after the book's opening, the girls' father returns from the war. Three years later, Meg and John marry and learn how to live together.
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When they have twins, Meg is a devoted mother but John begins to feel left out. Laurie graduates from college, having put in effort to do well in his last year with Jo's prompting. He realises that he has fallen in love with Jo. Sensing his feelings, Jo confides in Marmee, telling her that she loves Laurie but she loves him like a brother and that she could not love him the romantic way. Laurie proposes marriage to her and she rejects him.
Jo decides she needs a break, and spends six months with a friend of her mother in New York City, serving as governess for her two children. The family runs a boarding house. She takes German lessons with Professor Bhaer, who lives in the house. He has come to America from Berlin to care for the orphaned sons of his sister.
For extra money, Jo writes stories without a moral, which disappoints Bhaer.
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Amy goes on a European tour with her aunt. Laurie and his grandfather also go to Europe. Beth's health has seriously deteriorated. Jo devotes her time to the care of her dying sister. Laurie encounters Amy in Europe. With the news of Beth's death, they meet for consolation and their romance grows. Amy's aunt will not allow Amy to return with just Laurie and his grandfather, so they marry before returning home from Europe. Professor Bhaer goes to the Marches' and stays for two weeks. On his last day, he proposes to Jo. Jo accepts.
When Aunt March dies, she leaves Plumfield to Jo. She and Bhaer turn the house into a school for boys.
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They have two sons of their own, and Amy and Laurie have a daughter. At apple-picking time, Marmee celebrates her 60th birthday at Plumfield, with her husband, her three surviving daughters, their husbands, and her six grandchildren. Meg, the eldest sister, is 16 when the story starts. She is referred to as a beauty, and manages the household when her mother is absent. According to Alcott's description of the character, she is brown-haired and blue-eyed, and has particularly beautiful hands.
Meg fulfills expectations for women of the time; from the start, she is already a nearly perfect "little woman" in the eyes of the world. Meg is based in the domestic household; she does not have significant employment or activities outside it. Meg is employed as a governess for the Kings, a wealthy local family.
Because of their father's family's social standing, Meg makes her debut into high society, but is lectured by her friend and neighbor, Theodore "Laurie" Laurence, for behaving like a snob. Meg marries John Brooke, the tutor of Laurie. The sequel, Little Men, mentions a baby daughter, Josephine "Josy" Brooke,  who is 14 at the beginning of the final book. Critics have portrayed Meg as lacking in independence, reliant entirely on her husband, and "isolated in her little cottage with two small children". According to Sarah Elbert, "democratic domesticity requires maturity, strength, and above all a secure identity that Meg lacks".
The principal character, Jo, 15 years old at the beginning of the book, is a strong and willful young woman, struggling to subdue her fiery temper and stubborn personality. The second-oldest of four sisters, Josephine March is the boyish one; her father has referred to her as his "son Jo", and her best friend and neighbor, Theodore "Laurie" Laurence, sometimes calls her "my dear fellow", and she alone calls him Teddy. Jo has a "hot" temper that often leads her into trouble.
With the help of her own misguided sense of humor, her sister Beth, and her mother, she works on controlling it. It has been said that a lot of Louisa May Alcott shows through in these characteristics of Jo. Jo loves literature, both reading and writing. She composes plays for her sisters to perform and writes short stories. She initially rejects the idea of marriage and romance, feeling that it would break up her family and separate her from the sisters whom she adores.
On her return home, Jo rejects Laurie's marriage proposal, confirming her independence. After Beth dies, Professor Bhaer woos Jo at her home, when "They decide to share life's burdens just as they shared the load of bundles on their shopping expedition". The marriage is deferred until her unexpected inheritance of her Aunt March's home a year later.
Jo also writes the first part of Little Women during the second portion of the novel. According to Elbert, "her narration signals a successfully completed adolescence". Beth, 13 when the story starts, is described as kind, gentle, sweet, shy, quiet and musical. She is the shyest March sister. She is especially close to Jo: when Beth develops scarlet fever after visiting the Hummels, Jo does most of the nursing and rarely leaves her side.
Beth recovers from the acute disease but her health is permanently weakened. As she grows, Beth begins to realize that her time with her loved ones is coming to an end. Finally, the family accepts that Beth will not live much longer. They make a special room for her, filled with all the things she loves best: her kittens, piano, Father's books, Amy's sketches, and her beloved dolls. She is never idle; she knits and sews things for the children who pass by on their way to and from school. But eventually she puts down her sewing needle, saying it grew "heavy. The main loss during Little Women is the death of beloved Beth.
Her "self-sacrifice" is ultimately the greatest in the novel. She gives up her life knowing that it has had only private, domestic meaning. Amy is the youngest sister and baby of the family, aged 12 when the story begins. Interested in art, she is described as a "regular snow-maiden" with curly golden hair and blue eyes, "pale and slender" and "always carrying herself" like a proper young lady.
She is the artist of the family. She is chosen by her aunt and uncle to travel in Europe with them, where she grows and makes a decision about the level of her artistic talent and how to direct her adult life. She encounters "Laurie" Laurence and his grandfather during the extended visit.
Amy is the least inclined of the sisters to sacrifice and self-denial. She behaves well in good society, at ease with herself. Critic Martha Saxton observes the author was never fully at ease with Amy's moral development and her success in life seemed relatively accidental. Ultimately, Amy is shown to work very hard to gain what she wants in life, and to make the most of her success while she has it. Due to her early selfishness when her friends knew she would not share any pickled lime and attachment to material things, Amy has been described as the least likable of the four sisters, but she is also the only one who strives to excel at art purely for self-expression, in contrast to Jo, who sometimes writes for financial gain.